Step 1: Understand the Block
If you’ve been trying unsuccessfully to lose weight for a while, there’s something going on that you
either can’t see or aren’t willing to see. Once you can clearly see what’s holding you back, that counts
as a mindset update! Identifying the real issue is the first step.

The only reason anyone would sabotage their own success is because they unconsciously associate
some sort of drawback to achieving their goal. Think about it: if you knew that losing 25 lbs would put you in a better mood, improve your sex life, extend your life and cost you thousands less in medical bills, you’d do it!
And yet, you do already know these things, but the weight hasn’t come off. How come?

There’s an unconscious block holding you back. You don’t take the actions necessary because you see there’s a drawback to achieving your goal.

Exercise: Write down your goal. Then write down 10 negative things that will happen as you achieve your goal.

For instance, let’s say your goal is to lose 25 lbs. Negative associations might be…
…I’ll have to buy new clothes and I can’t afford it.
…My sister will get jealous and fight with me.
…My best friend will tell me I’m “too good” for her.
…I’ll have to go to the gym, and that’s embarrassing.
…I won’t be able to eat 15 Thin Mints every night.

See where I’m going with this? Write down yours now.

Step 2: Hone in on the Biggies
Now you have your list of 10 drawbacks that will come with your goal. Take a look at the list, and circle the three drawbacks that stand out to you the most. It might get emotional, and that’s okay. In fact, if you get emotional, you know you’ve hit the nail on the head.

Sit with those three drawbacks for a bit. Let it sink in.

Now the question becomes this: are those three drawbacks scary enough that you’d rather not try than deal with them?

Step 3: Understand that the Weight is Not the Problem
When you’re able to deeply connect with the three drawbacks you’ve circled, you’ll start to understand that the weight is not the problem. The extra weight is a symptom of something else. If you’re dealing with a tough time in a relationship or a demanding job- losing weight will not fix the issue. In fact, it might exacerbate it.
When you understand that the weight isn’t the problem, you can look at the actual issue that is causing you to sabotage your success.

The point of the exercise is to illuminate areas where you may be holding yourself back. When you can see the negatives that might come hand in hand with your success, you can see opportunities to make a different choice. When you see the opportunities to make a different choice, you can take actions that will change your life.

Step 4: Get Some Accountability & Support
Have you ever said, “I know what to do, but I’m not doing it”? I’ve been there and I get it. That’s why I created the Mindfully Meesh 1:1 Coaching Programs. Everyone needs support and accountability – even coaches! These programs are all about getting rid of that “all or nothing” mentality, improving your relationship with food, understanding nutritional behaviors and creating a sustainable and healthy lifestyle. No more quick fixes. No more guilt around food. I love working with people who are serious about changing their lives and creating the lifestyle they’ve been dreaming about. So get ready to put in the work! It’s worth it!